Your Go-To Kink Guide

The word “kink” gets thrown around a lot, but we’re willing to bet that many of us aren’t exactly sure what the word actually means or encompasses. It’s a tough one, because there are many facets to the word kink, from the most streamlined to the most shocking; this being said, we can define a kink as bizarre or unconventional sexual preferences or behavior.

• 24/7 – A power exchange relationship that is on going, 24 hours and 7 days a week.
• Aftercare – time after play or sexual activity where the participants check in. This is usually considered a big part of kink play and can involve everything from getting water to cleaning up or just reconnecting.
• Ageplay – Usually a large difference in ages between the people participating. This involves an include infantilism, Parent/child play, incest play, diaper play and more.
• BDSM – “Bondage and Discipline,” “Dominance and Submission,” “Sadomasochism,” “Sadism and Masochism,” and “Slave/Master.”
• Blood Choking – Choking someone to the point that they pass out, or begin to lose consciousness, by restricting the blood flow to their brain.
• Bondage – There are many different kinds including rope bondage, suspension bondage, leather bondage, furniture and device bondage, predicament bondage. But over all, it is the act of restraint.
• Bottom – The person receiving sensation and usually penetration.
• Breathplay – Restricting breath of self or others, considered edging.
• CBT – “Cock and Ball Torture”  torture of the testicles and penis.
• Cane/Caning – Striking someone with a cane.
• Collar/Collaring – is associated with a person’s identity as a submissive and/or owned person.
• Consent – Non coursed permission
• Consensual Nonconsent – Both parties agree to perform an act of non-consensual activity, that has been talked about prior and is actually consenting.
• Corsetry/Tight-lacing – Shape changing.
• Cupping – Using heating up glass cups with rounded backs on the skin. They make a suction and leave bruises on the skin.
• Dom(me) –The person who holds the power.
• Dungeon – Play spaces or places where play parties are held.
• Edgeplay – Breathplay, choking, knife play, play piercing, blood play, fireplay, gun play, consensual nonconsent.
• Fire Play – The use or threat of using fire.
• Fisting – Putting part or the whole fist inside a rectum or vagina.
• Floggers/Flogging – Multi-tailed whip used in BDSM.
• Golden Showers – Peeing on someone or having them pee on you.
• Hard Limit – Something that someone is not into nor will be. hard no.
• Impact play – Something that makes a physical impact like spanking, slapping, caning, flogging, paddling, punching, and hitting.
• Knife Play – Using or the threat of using a knife.
• Masochism/Masochist – Enjoying pain or enjoying inflicting pain.
• Master/Slave – A power exchange.
• Medical Play – Can include piercings and needles.
• Mummification – confining movement for sensory play with things like saran wrap, plastic, rubber, fabric
• Needle Play – Play involving needles, or the threat of needles.
• Pony Play – acting like or being the owner of a (human) pony
• Pet Play – acting like, or being the owner of, a human pet – like a cat or dog. Costumes and leashes are common.
• Rape fantasy – Faking a rape sense, can be used as an act of submission but conceptual.
• Rough Sex – from biting to slapping.
• Sadism/Sadist – Person who gives pain to another.
• Sensation Play – Using the sensation of touch.
• Sensory deprivation – Taking away a sensation to heighten others.
• Scat Play – playing with human feces.
• Shibari – Japanese binding or tying.
• Sounding – inserting metal rods into the urethral openings.
• Suspension – Lifting or partially lifting the subject into the air.
• Submissive – Person who gives, relents, or doesn’t have power.
• Switch – Someone who switches between sub and dom.
• Sadist – One who gives pain.
• Masochist – One who enjoys receiving pain.
• Sadomasochist – One who enjoys both giving and receiving pain.
• Top – Person giving sensation or action.
• TPE – “Total Power Exchange.”  all power is exchanged, including finances and physical property.
• Wax Play – play involving dripping hot wax on the skin.
• Watersports – Play involving pee, playing with pee, and peeing on one another.
• Wartenberg wheel – Nerve ending sensation play with a small, very sharp-spiked wheel that can be rolled over the skin.

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