The G-Spot Isn’t Real (but Vaginal Orgasms Are)
The G-Spot is a strange entity; a term known by most, but wildly misunderstood by many.The G-spot is allegedly a highly erogenous area on the anterior wall of the human vagina. Since the concept first appeared in a popular book on human sexuality in 1982, the existence of the spot has become a widely accepted fact/concept, especially by the general public.
While most of the published scientific data points to the fact that the G-spot does not exist; reliable reports and anecdotal testimonials of the existence of a highly sensitive area in the distal anterior vaginal wall raise the question of whether enough investigative modalities have been implemented in the search of the G-spot. Female anatomy and sexual health have been extremely understudied, under-documented, and widely repressed; so it is possible that this spot of pleasure may actually be a reality, whether it should be considered its own “spot” or not.
“We’ve seen the G-spot become the feature of a multimillion dollar business by the use of such non-scientifically based terms by researchers and scientists serving as the fuel for the evolution of myths, which are then amplified by mass media and become popular and well-accepted. Some medical professionals take advantage of these myths, and of the expectations (or the distress) of women influenced by the myth, for their own personal benefit.” – Vincenzo Puppo & Giulia Puppo
This view and many others regarding the G-spot aren’t new. There’s been a debate on clitoral versus vaginal orgasms which has produced conflicting data from psychiatry and psychoanalysis, epidemiology, evolutionary theory, feminist political theory, physiology, and neuroscience for quite some time. But it seems, rather than putting emphasis on singling out a location responsible for orgasm, research shows us that an orgasm could simply be a combination of multiple endogenous, sensitive zones; as well as certain forms of emotional and mental stimulation in addition to the physical stimulations.
New research begs for acknowledgement of the enormous potential women have to experience orgasms “from one or more sources of sensory input, including the external clitoral glans, the internal region around the “G-spot” that corresponds to the internal clitoral bulbs, the cervix, as well as sensory stimulation of non-genital areas such as the nipples.”
The study goes on to conclude that, “with experience, stimulation of one or all of these triggering zones are integrated into a “whole” set of sensory inputs, movements, body positions, autonomic arousal, and partner- and contextual-related cues, that reliably induces pleasure and orgasm during masturbation and copulation. The process of integration is iterative and can change across the lifespan with new experiences of orgasm.”
Some research has even gone as far to state that the female orgasm is possible in all women with effective stimulation of the female erectile organs. However, even if all people with vaginas are able to have an orgasm, whether it be internal or external, there are several factors that could hinder said orgasm.
One qualitative study broke down some of these factors which include physical obstacles (partner boredom, vaginal infection, insufficient vaginal lubrication), psychological obstacles (lack of sexual knowledge, shame, lack of concentration on sex due to household and children problems), relational obstacles (spouses’ hurry, having a dispute and annoyance with spouse) and contextual obstacles (irregular sleep hours, lack of privacy and inability to separate children’s bedrooms from their parents’, lack of peace at home).
Put simply, the alleged physical ability to have an orgasm does not necessitate that an individual can have one on account of a number of factors (as seen above) that come into play. This said, education about yourself and your body is always beneficial, no matter the circumstance, and can certainly help an individual on the pursuit of an orgasm, a better orgasm, or more orgasm frequency. Worth a try, right?
So, what about this spot? Where is it? and what is it??
Although no single structure consistent with a distinct G-spot has been identified; we know the vagina is not a passive organ, but a highly dynamic structure with an active role in sexual arousal and intercourse. The anatomical relationships and dynamic interactions between the clitoris, urethra, and anterior vaginal wall have led to the concept of a clitourethrovaginal (CUV) complex, defining a variable, multifaceted morphofunctional area that, when properly stimulated during penetration, could induce orgasmic responses.
And there is a significantly increased density of nerves and microvessels in the distal-third of the anterior vaginal wall which could be the histomorphological basis of the “G-spot.” One look at a cadaver found a physical G-spot on the body and gave it precise measurements (which can be seen here).
Some even argue that this spot is sensitive on the account that it is an aspect of the internal clit: as the clitoris is the primary anatomical feature for female orgasm.
The above 3-D sonography of the stimulated clitoris shows us that, when engorged, the internal portion of the clitoris does surround the anterior vaginal wall. MRI scans show that the distal vagina and urethra are clearly related, forming a midline core to the clitoris, which creates this concept of the clitourethrovaginal complex but noting that the vagina and clitoris are two separate structures, meaning the vagina has no anatomical relationship with the clitoris.
This clitoral complex has both external and internal parts and, though they are separate structures, they do share nerves. These sensory nerves course into the dorsal clitoral nerve, connecting with the sensory nerves coming from the external glans of the clitoris and entering the pudendal nerve plexus.
When aroused, the engorged clitoris and connecting nerves could increase the likelihood that orgasm could be experienced from both external clitoral glans stimulus and internal stimulation of the clitoral root (posterior portions of the clitoral complex) that fold around the anterior vaginal wall.
If the G-spot is indeed part of the engorged internal clitoris, it would make sense that during penile thrusting, the anterior wall of the vagina, contacted with each thrust against the root of the clitoris, could be a possible explanation of the sensitivity experienced by women during penetration; this correlation would reveal a very real relationship between these structures during vaginal penetration and explain why some people with vaginas can achieve orgasm by vaginal stimulation alone.
Regardless of the dozens of trials that have attempted through surveys, pathologic specimens, various imaging modalities, and biochemical markers to confirm the existence of a singular, specific G-spot without successfully doing so, the majority of women when asked do believe a G-spot actually exists, although not all of the women who believed in it were able to locate it. One study even found that 56% reported having a G-spot.
And further, many individuals with vaginas who do think they have a specific area and could orgasm via their self-reported g-spot said they could indeed tell the difference between orgasms. The self-report study found that the clitoral orgasms were thought to feel more localized, intense, and physically satisfying; and the vaginal orgasm was described as stronger and longer lasting with a ‘deeper,’ ‘whole-body’ sensation including throbbing feelings, and was thought to be more psychologically satisfying. However, despite these subjective differences, there was no clear subjective “winner” between the two, and most women utilized a form of blended stimulation of the two to achieve orgasm.
So, although a huge amount of data has accumulated in the last 60 years, we still need more research on one of the most challenging aspects of female sexuality because realistically, orgasms are complex phenomena involving psychological, physiological, and anatomic variation. As is the case with all aspects of sexuality, self, and life, we deserve to know as much as possible about ourselves and the potential that we hold (bodily or otherwise).
All this said, there is also a great deal of emphasis on the individual to explore, research, and play to discover what feels good for them. Sexuality isn’t a one size fits all or one orgasm to rule them all type of thing.
“The distinction between different orgasms, then, is not between sensations of the external clitoris and internal vagina, but between levels of what a woman understands a ‘whole’ orgasm to consist of. This depends on the experience with direct stimulation of the external clitoris, internal clitoris, and/or cervix, but also with knowledge of the arousing and erotic cues that predict orgasm, knowledge of her own pattern of movements that lead to it, and experience with stimulation of multiple external and internal genital and extra-genital sites (e.g. lips, nipples, ears, neck, fingers, and toes) that can be associated with it. Orgasms do not have to come from one site, nor from all sites; and they do not have to be the same for every woman, nor for every sexual experience even in the same woman, to be whole and valid. And it is likely that such knowledge changes across the lifespan, as women experience different kinds of orgasms from different types of sensations in different contexts and/or with different partners. Thus, what constitutes a ‘whole’ orgasm depends on how a woman sums the parts and the individual manner in which she scales them along flexible dimensions of arousal, desire, and pleasure. The erotic body map a woman possesses is not etched in stone, but rather is an ongoing process of experience, discovery, and construction which depends on her brain’s ability to create optimality between the habits of what she expects and an openness to new experiences. Most importantly, the application of a restricted reproductive model of male ejaculation to understanding the cause and effect of women’s orgasms only serves to obfuscate and hide the truly remarkable variety of orgasmic experiences a woman can have.”
WE SAY HELL YES TO THAT!!!!!!
Real Talk From Real People & Their Experiences with the G-Spot
Now that we’ve explored the scientific side of the g-spot, let’s take it to the social! No matter what science does or does not say about something’s existence, social constructions are very much real, and they have very real ramifications. When something exists within popular culture/society, it is talked about, it is explored, and it is experienced; therefore, it’s real in every sense of the word. So, we can drown you in scientific jargon, or we can share some true stories/experiences with you which we gathered from individuals with vaginas from around the globe. We asked the public the following questions:
1. Do you think the g-spot is real?
2. If so, have you located your own/your partners?
3. Do you think a vaginal (g-spot oriented) orgasm feels significantly different than an external clitoral orgasm?
As we anticipated, countless individuals whom we spoke with have had personal experiences with their own/their partner’s G-spot. Though, this was not the case for everyone. Check out the answers and, please, comment below with yours, too! The sharing of information is the best way to end lacking education and break down stigmatization. If you’d like to share your thoughts/experiences regarding the g-spot, please do!
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Because of the Cue’s shape, it is perfect for internal stimulation as well as external. For external stimulation, simply use the Cue as you would a vibe, placing it on the clit and experimenting with different types of movement. Try a clit-clocking as explained by Kenneth Play:
“Imagine the clock face, pointing up towards your nose is 12:00 and then clockwise from there. Which area is the most pleasurable or sensitive? While you’re moving around the clock try different pressures or amounts of friction. Some people are righties, some lefties, some like right below the clit, everyone’s different. Also, try cross-strokes, going from 12:00 to 6:00, for example, is the downstroke, and the opposite is the upstroke.”
This method of self-discovery is also a great way to communicate what you want to a partner in a visual, easily-understandable way. Use this clock as both a way to learn your body and pleasure, as well as a guide for your lovers.
In terms of internal stimulation, insert the Cue into the vagina, adjusting the intensity to your liking. Focus the pressure on the frontal wall of your vagina. Try both an in and out motion as well as a back and forth motion, you can even experiment with a circling motion.
As advised by my sex expert, Kenneth Play, if something feels good, don’t stop! Listen to your body. Pressure is often necessary when you’re looking to achieve an internal vaginal orgasm, so play with the different amount of pressure at the front (just behind where your clitoris is on the outside).
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How can we expect to achieve pleasure with a partner/partners when we haven’t unlocked the keys to our own pleasure personally? Exploration and play are positively necessary when it comes to navigating our sexual selves, and sometimes toys and accessories can be more beneficial than you may imagine.
Please, reach out if you have any questions about The Cue or other products, or anything at all for that matter. We’re here for you, we’re your resource, and we’re in this learning process together!