2018 is here and we could not be more excited about it! There’s nothing we love more than setting goals and intentions and getting mindful of the days, weeks, months, and years to come. We don’t know what it is, but we’ve got a damn good feeling about this year, friends! Though we aren’t keen on some of the negative aspects that come along with New Year’s resolutions, we are very keen on the positive change that they can sometimes provoke. When we are coming to turning points in our lives or goal setting, some things that we like to focus on are the following: growth, learning, openness, and wellness. We find that these things are broad enough that they leave tons of room to move and exist within them, but they are positive mantras/goals to keep in mind during your endeavors.
We live in a world that is filled with infinite things to learn, that’s for sure. Though the infinite nature of knowledge can be intimidating at times, it can also be incredibly inspiring, should you choose to see it that way. Call us old-fashioned, but we believe that there are two tactics that work best when you’re seeking to learn:
Engage with the world around you, the people around you, and yourself through being present, being mindful, practicing empathy, listening, and asking questions.
Pick up a dang book!
Some of our best friends are books, and we think that yours should be too! There is something special about coming across a text which you truly engage with, that lights your fire, and that teaches you a little something that you didn’t know before. Lately, we’ve been on the hunt for some engaging and educational books written by phenomenal individuals that we’d like to throw on our 2018 reading list, and we want to share them with you! So, if you’re interested in and a number of topics surrounding sexuality and psychology, we think you might just dig one (or ten) of the books on our 2018 Psych N Sex reading list.
Check them out, pick a couple you’d like to get to know and click the link to order them (yay for following through!)
1. Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive
by Kristen J. Sollee
Learn about “witch feminism” through the exploration of art, film, fashion, literature, technology, religion, pop culture, and politics. This tantalizing read explores loaded topics such as sexual liberation and the demonization of women and female sexuality. If you’re looking to get angry, inspired, and fired up about feminism in the best kind of way, this is the book for you. We would highly encourage all of our spiritual, witchy, feminist friends to give them one a read. Click here to purchase.
2. The Ethical Slut
By Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton
We could not adore this book more! On these pages, Hardy and Easton explore the ways in which the modern relationship/individual can exist outside of what we have come to understand as the conventional relationship. The book discusses ways in which one may choose to engage with love, sex, and intimacy apart from monogamy in a provocative, beautiful way. Truly a must read! Click here to purchase.
3. The Science of Attraction: Flirting, Sex, and How to Engineer Chemistry and Love
By Patrick King
We don’t know if you’ve ever read any texts about pick-up artistry or, heaven forbid, run into a pick-up artist yourself; but we have and we must say: it’s total garbage. This compelling book explores attraction and flirtation on a purely scientific level. The text is entirely research-backed and will help you engage with those whom you are attracted to in more mindful and, hopefully, successful ways. A great read if you’re hoping to step out of your comfort zone or put yourself out there in 2018. Click here to purchase.
4. Sex Rules!: Astonishing Sexual Practices and Gender Roles Around the World
Janice Z. Brodman
So, we love sex, and we have a hunch you might too. This book has scored #1 on Amazon’s New Release list and for good reason. This book is incredibly interesting as it dives into the exploration of what sex looks like around the world. The book begs the question “what is normal sex?” and may change your views on sex altogether. Friends, North American sex culture may seem beyond strange after your eyes fall upon this text. Check it out, we beg you! Click here to purchase.
5. Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life
By Emily Nagoski Ph.D.
Well, if the title hasn’t sold you, the fact that this novel is a New York Times Bestseller and a Psych N Sex certified gem should do the trick. The book explores women’s sexuality in a way which is both inclusive and individualized; the book looks at each woman’s sexuality as completely unique, like a fingerprint. The book intends to radically transform the sex lives of women everywhere and you just need to read it! With cutting-edge research, beautiful writing, and one of the most compelling topics we’ve come across, this book is flying off shelves. Click here to purchase.
6. Testosterone Rex: Myths of Sex, Science, and Society
By Cordelia Fine
“Goodbye, beliefs in sex differences disguised as evolutionary facts. Welcome the dragon slayer: Cordelia Fine wittily but meticulously lays bare the irrational arguments that we use to justify gender politics.”―Uta Frith, emeritus professor of cognitive development, University College London
We could not have said it better ourselves. Taking a close and meticulous look at the ways in which society has perceived gender roles and gender stereotypes for years, this book is the perfect dose of perspective that we all need this year. Disproving age-old myths, putting-forth new schools of thought, and sharing stories about everyday life, Cordelia Fine has written a serious page-turner about a hell of a cause. Click here to purchase.
7. Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect
By Matthew D. Lieberman
“We are profoundly social creatures — more than we know.” Most of us enjoy engaging socially with other individuals, no matter if that is in a friendly, familial, or romantic way; but did you know that our need to connect with other individuals may be more fundamental than even our need for food or shelter? This book explores our need for social engagement and connection in a deeply intriguing way through the study of human brains, psychology, and sociology. If you’ve ever wondered about the ways in which you engage with others, this compelling read might be perfect for you! Click here to purchase.
8. How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain
By Lisa Feldman Barrett
“A new theory of how the brain constructs emotions that could revolutionize psychology, health care, the legal system, and our understanding of the human mind” This incredible book helps its readers come to the understanding that we have far more control than we may think of our selves and our emotions. We have been conditioned to think that our emotions are automatic, reactive, and hardwired into the body and brain; this provocative text begs to differ. This book will give you a new understanding of your emotions and perhaps even on what it means to be human. Click here to purchase.
9. The Evolution of Beauty: How Darwin’s Forgotten Theory of Mate Choice Shapes the Animal World – and Us
By Richard O. Prum
This exceptionally engaging book explores the word of beauty and attraction in (finally) a way that is not akin to Darwin’s theory of natural selection. If you are intrigued by any topics surrounding beauty, attraction, or love in general, we think you might find this book to be an absolute page-turner. Click here to purchase.
10. Why Straight Guys Love Their Gay Guys: Reviving the Roots of Male Sexuality
By David Dalton
It is no secret that male sexuality is a complicated terrain to navigate, and this remains the case in both hetero and homosexual relationships. But, tragically, evening in this seemingly progressive world we live in, stigmatization still exists. This text seeks to explore the straight male’s desire for gay males and/or their lifestyles. Click here to purchase.